Inventing our stories

From the moment we are born we begin to build up a story around ourselves – some stories we make up ourselves and some are told to us by adults.. We tell ourselves that we are not musical, that we have certain fears, that the teacher says we are lazy’..and so the damage begins. By the time we are at the vulnerable teenage stage the combination of lack of self- esteem and changing hormones make us doubt ourselves and our abilities.

CREATING NEURAL PATHWAYS

Throughout our lives we tend to think and process information in the same old way. We create a condensed view of the world that our brains have invented. Thoughts create neural pathways and the more we use the same pathways, the more engrained that way of thinking becomes. So whether you want to become thinner, happier, richer….you need to create new ways of thinking and make new neural pathways or nothing can change. If you tell keep telling yourself that you are lazy or you are a failure, how CAN you change? You ingrain that story every single day when in actual fact all it is is a story. A Story that you have written and which you continue to rewrite day after day after day. You have to make a conscious choice to leave it behind and write yourself a new story.

TRY FAKING IT :)

If you are nervous of public speaking don’t go into a meeting saying to yourself ‘damn I hate public speaking’. Pretend to yourself that you LOVE public speaking, that its exciting and challenging. Your brain will respond to that pretence, and it will inevitably become real. Didn’t you ever pretend that you were too sick for school? And if you pretended for long enough that you had a stomach ache you would GET a stomach ache? Your brain responds to messages that you tell it. So instead of letting it respond to all those negative stories you tell it, let it respond to positive ones. It WILL respond in a positive way.

SHIFT HAPPENS!

To begin with, promise yourselves that this week, whenever you use a negative phrase you will stop yourself. Start changing your story. Get rid of phrases such as ‘I have always been afraid of spiders’, or ‘my whole family over- eat’ or ‘I will never get over my fear of public speaking’. Release yourselves from your illusions.
Listening to the downloads will help to relax you into a state of such relaxation that it becomes easier to accept new ways of thinking